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Tracey Cox

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“Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. It's funny, I'm confident of my abilities professionally. I'm confident that I'm intelligent. I don't know. I suppose, yeah, you never really, I mean, I remember when I studied psychology and the guy just got up there and said he was a great lecturer and he said, it's all about your childhood. And we all just rolled our eyes and went, oh, for God's sake, it's so like how ridiculous it's not. It's not. And it is. It really is. Like, I'm still that 15-year-old girl that stood there terrified. You know, she's still there. And yeah, so it's interesting. But I put on a good show, like every Philly.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Insecurity, like going away and like every, you know, the first time I listened to this, for instance, it'll be like, oh my God, I was terrible. Look at me. Look at the way I look. Look at, oh my God, why didn't I do something else with my hands? I'll go through it. Then I'll go, don't be silly. And then I'll listen to it and then I'll have an okay opinion about it. But yeah, there's still that little bit there.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Proudest of my career and having helped people and one of the really annoying people when you're in a dinner party who's just knew what they wanted to do really early on with the writing and then that happened very early with my parents. So I'm really proud of that. My first book I was so excited. I literally, you know that when you just jump on the spot, I was literally jumping on the spot. I didn't really do regrets actually. I don't really do regrets. Maybe I wish that I was more or had been more confident. I'm confident on the outside but not on the inside. I'm the most confident, unconfident person you'll ever be. And probably realize that no one's looking at you. They're too busy worrying about themselves. I wish I'd sort of calmed down a bit and was more confident.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Know you're not going to, you might want to do it yourself, but you're not going to send your partner off, and they might want to do it themselves, but they're not going to send you off. So I don't know what the solution is. I really don't.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“I think that for sex No I think for sex no, it's absolutely not for our sex drive it's the worst thing is to give some security and you know predictability and stuff in the same person over and over no not for our sex drive but the problem is that the alternative is polyamory right so you have this one love relationship and then you seek sex elsewhere now in theory that really appeals to me. I can see that that would be great, right? But I'm never going to I'm not gonna feel comfortable waving off my husband bye darling you have a great time you know don't worry about what time you get back no way he's my you know his possession isn't it's ownership it's sexual ownership”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“And it's the trade off. It's like, yeah, I could go out and cheat and have really hot sacks, but I'm going to have to look my partner in the eye, and I really love my partner. So I'm happy to wave goodbye to that hot sex. I've had enough of it in my life. So it depends on your motivation. So if you are driven by sex, then just don't settle down. Keep swapping partners and get that out of your system. And then you're not going to be dishonest to anyone. But if you do want a relationship, sometimes you have to go, okay, we can have great sex. It's not going to be like the sex that you have at the beginning, but you know what? I've got two kids. I've got a great wife. I've got, you know, it's a trade-off in life, isn't it? Everything's a trade-off.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Well, it is, but you don't because you love your partner. So it's a trade-off. It's always a trade-off. You can have the love and this contentment and the companionship. And this is why older, you know, you asked about infant.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“To create other human beings. This is why going right back to the beginning, this whole thing that we have that, you know, why can't we have the sex at the beginning all the way through? Because it doesn't suit. It wouldn't work. If you were so lust driven and all you wanted to do was shag like rabbits, you would never get anything else done. You certainly wouldn't have children. You certainly wouldn't have a job. So we are designed to keep the world in a safe place. We go through lust and infatuation, romance, attachment for a reason so that we calm down. We don't have the hot sex and we keep the world, you know, we bring up our children in a sensible way and the world continues.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Sex certainly isn't intercourse, and people need to stop thinking of sex as intercourse. Sex is any type of Any type of feeling, word, thought that makes you feel aroused. That's how I describe sex.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Go on two or three days, go on at least three with people. You know, go out all the time. Often these women are so busy. It's like, well, when do you actually go out to actually put yourself in a situation where you can meet someone? Never. They're not going to walk in your lounge room, are they, unless you sort of order a delivery? They're really not. So come on. You've got to make some effort here. You've got to do the numbers game. And I don't know whether that dating apps are the right way forward, but they're probably the only way, it's the way that most people meet. So you kind of have to just suck it up and get on there, I think.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“So, you have to make the approach, number one, change your wish list to become qualities, personality qualities, not, you know, must be a certain height, must be a certain income, must drive this car, must, you know, all those sort of things because they really don't matter. And also date outside of type, like go out with people, look beyond the exterior, see what's inside. I think they'll be very quick to go, oh no, I can't go out with that person, you know, like go on a couple of days, even if the first date's disaster.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Yeah, that was the issue, isn't it? It's, I mean, I was talking about Helen Galey Brown, the Cosmo founder, and she always said you can have it all. And that's the biggest lie wouldn't have been sold. You can't have it all. There is something that gives. And these high achievers, yeah, they have compromised their chances of finding a partner by putting it all into their career. You can't have it all. And I did that. I mean, it took me to 50. I had lots of relationships. It took me to 50 to find somebody that was, I was compatible with. It's not easy. It's really, really difficult. And I was out there meeting tons of people. So first accept that it's nothing to do with you. It doesn't mean that you're not attractive for anything. You're probably less marketable because you're too intelligent and some men will be freaked by that and you're too successful and some men will be freaked by that. They don't know what to do with you. And it makes them feel bad because they're going to those traditional patterns like how she's not going to go out with me. I'm not as successful as her, so I'm not even going to try.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“They make a lot of money, they won't. I've never been like that. I've never been get their money. If I want money, I'll make it myself, thanks. I don't want to have someone else's money. That's not mine. So I do think it's a big problem for women and men. I think we both have to, especially women, have to stop being so rigid with that, you know, and expect the man to provide. And I think men have to stop being so feeling emasculated if it's the woman who's owning more. So what? Who cares? As long as someone's got some money somewhere along the line, who cares which one?”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“That didn't work. So my partner is really proud of me. He's not at all It threatened in the slightest by any success, any success I've had. He's my biggest, proudest supporter. And we work differently. If my thing is to, you know, I make more money than him, he doesn't mind me saying that because he's fine with it. And so if I've got more money, that's great. So therefore, you know, if he's got more time than me to do the traditional female things, then he's fine with that. And then sometimes, other times I'll do it. And, you know, he assumes the male role. So it's very, you know, we're comfortable with each other. We don't care that I tick the mailboxes in some roles and he ticks the female boxes and it works very well. And I think you have to, I think that's hopefully where we're headed. But there is, there are some times where, I mean, I know I'm not typical with females. I know that a lot of women, you know, won't go out with a man unless he makes a lot of money, particularly.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Probably But that doesn't necessarily work. For me that didn't work because if I'm like very alpha female so whenever I went out with an alpha male we were just like hated each other. It's like I'm the boss, no, I'm the boss. No, fuck her off. Now I'm controlling you no, you know it didn't work at all didn't work at all. Very competitive. I'm too competitive. They were too competitive”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“It's just generally what happens, isn't it? If I've got a degree, I want somebody else who's got a degree. So then you have to change your wish list a little bit and think, okay. I'm going to, I'm not going to be as rigid with my, you know, must haves and perhaps think about things like, well, does it really matter how much he earns if I'm already earning lots of money? Isn't kindness, generosity, sense of humor, attractiveness, you know, just general chemistry, isn't that enough? So if you go for those qualities, you end up a lot better off and end up happier as well.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Traditionally don't like dating high achieving women unless they're high achieving themselves and the amount of high achieving women is getting higher and the amount of high achieving men is getting lower so you've got even less of a pool to choose from so the answer for the women is to think outside the square and think right okay do I really need the guy who's got the degree because women high achieving women like to go for high achieving men so you need to”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Yeah, yeah, and then you've got Are they all high achieving women? Yeah, exactly. That's the problem. So, what happens is you get, and this is why there are more and more single women now, because more and more women are high achieving. So they're not looking for a husband straight away when you've got a big gene pool of people to, you know, like when you come out of uni or even before you go into uni, because lots of people meet at uni and stay together. You've got this big, you know, like numbers game. You've got loads of women single, loads of men single, and you sort of all hook up. And if your motivation is to get married and have kids, and that's your only motivation, you're going to find a partner early and that's it. Job done, keep going, right? Assuming it all goes well. But if your motivation isn't necessarily that, if you want to go on to university, you know, get your career sorted and then turn around and have kids like at 30, okay, right now, Chief, I'm at the past, you know, where I want to have kids, but then I can take a bit of a break here and then suddenly, where is he? Well, he's not there because he's already been taken up everybody else.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Yeah, you can still buy. It's an old book, but it sort of delves into all of this. And yeah, I mean, I think I'm so pro-therapy. I think everybody should go to therapy. No one has a perfect childhood. In fact, having a perfect childhood can also set you up for things. So, you know, if we have a problem, if you have a problem with sex, you know, going to see a really good sex therapist could sort it out very quickly. So don't leave it too late.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Yeah, just unpack it yourself. You have to just think about it. You don't necessarily have to go to therapy. There's so much. I mean, the joy of the internet is there's so much online You can do if you typed in, you know, I don't like sex as my parents taught me. There's a book called Sex Mah actually, which is very good about childhoods.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“That's right. And I mean particularly for men, often their first experience childhood experience of sex is being caught masturbating. And how the parent deals with that is very formative. Because if it's like absolutely, what are you doing? You know, like it's really filthy, it's dirty, it's like, what are you doing? Then they are going to continue to masturbate because pretty much they do, but they're going to try and do it faster and faster and faster. So every time they masturbate, they're going to be trying to get it down to as quick as possible time so that they don't get in trouble again. And then they end up with rapid ejaculation. They can last two seconds before they ejaculate. So that's affected their sex life in a purely physical way. It sets us up in so many different ways, our childhood. I don't know why a household was like that, but we just talked about sex openly. I suppose my sister worked for family planning, which helped, but that was later. So, I don't know, my mum and my dad were really cool talking about sex and things.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Menopause and it wasn't menopause. It was your attitude to sex. If you'd always loved sex and you wanted sex to continue, you found the solutions and you kept on having great sex. If you were never that keen, it's like, oh, actually, you know what? Here we go, an obstacle. What a great solute, what a great sort of excuse to never have sex again. So it's attitude was way more important to how good the sex was after menopause. Nothing to do with menopause.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Again, manage expectations. Keep having sex. That whole use it or lose it. You've got to keep having sex. That's very, very important. Get your head around the whole thing about that old doesn't mean that you can't be sexy. It doesn't matter what you look like. It's what you feel like. It's so many, many different things. And also, you don't have to put, I think as a society, particularly English people, we all put up with stuff. Like, there are solutions for all of these things. If you've got a drive vagino, go and get a vagina moisturizer, go and get a, you know, estrogen pestery. There are solutions for everything that happens with menopause. You don't have to sit there and just put up with it all because if you do, then you won't want to have sex, definitely. So seek all the solutions. Don't be scared to try and find solutions to all these things because they really are out there. Change your headset, you know. And the women, it's interesting that they did a big thing about what really influences women's desire post-”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Yes, because for me that's what happened. I've written about sex. I thought this isn't going to happen to me because I know everything about sex, of course. And then I hit like 50, no, actually probably even before that. And suddenly I realized, I remember typing away one day and thinking, Christavard, I was single at the time. I hadn't masturbated for ages. What's going on? I haven't even thought about sex for ages. And it's the drop in hormones. And it's quite extraordinary to that whole spontaneous desire. I had very high spontaneous design. Suddenly it went. So I just suddenly became like other women, I suppose. And suddenly it was like, oh my God, I see where everyone's going on about. So I thought, yeah, for my own sake, I might write that book. And it's very good writing that book. There's a lot of solutions in there.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Older people kissing passionately or naked from the back and they were quite old. And they were the most beautiful images and so many people were threatened by that. They were really threatened because there was old people doing sexual things. We're not treated to that. We don't see that very often. So when somebody does that, people, they don't like to think about older people having sex. So when you're old, you have it already in your head. I'm not supposed to want sex anymore, which is completely untrue.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Stable, but then they have the women struggle with the drop of because menopause with all the drop of testosterone and all the estrogen, all those things that keep your genitals in good shape and keep your sex drive high, men's testosterone drops as well, but then they're struggling with erections. So if you're an older man and you can get your head around that you're not going to get erections as easily as she did and it doesn't bother you, you're going to be fine. If you're a woman and you actually get all the things that are available to you, take HRT if you can like there's solutions for all of this and don't think to yourself, oh, well, we're old now. We're not going to be sexual. You'll be fine as well. But I think people panic, you know, when they hit a certain age. And there's this perception, you know, like, you know, people get, I did a campaign for replense, which is a vaginal moisturizer, which most men blink at and good to see you didn't. And it was all about and had these beautiful images of...”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“No, they don't, so it must be not everybody says that, but I do know mothers who've say, God, you know what, if I Look back, maybe I wouldn't have done those, but they're very brave, and they told childless women that they never tell a woman with a child, by the way. Yeah, of course they are.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“I mean, how many people who say, what's the best thing you've ever done? They say having children Everybody says that And they can't all be lying”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“It's such a big responsibility. And when you have that responsibility, it means, you know, you're not going to be able to do, you're not selfless. You become selfless then, don't you? You can't be selfish and have a kid. Well, you can. You can be a really bad parent. But it's different, isn't it? It's really different. I'm sure, but then parents say, well, you're the one that's missed out because you don't have this incredible. And I have such a good relationship with my mum and my dad and us three kids are all milling around. They're like 87 and 89. I'm thinking no one's going to do that for me. Who's going to do that for me? I have to pay for it.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“It is a controversial idea, but I mean, there's a trade off with kids. There's such a trade-off. You can never, I mean, and I think this, I'm a step parent. My husband has a daughter. And when we're going through hustles with Sophia, which she's a little darling, but also can be a little devil, let me tell you, he can sleep. I mean, sorry, I can sleep. Miles can't sleep. And I lie to her and I think, gosh, if I had given birth to Sophia, if she'd been, you know, I wouldn't be able to sleep. There's no way that I'd be able to sleep. It's you are knowing that you're going to be worrying for the rest of your life once you have a kid.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Oh God no, it's so stressful I do not understand this. Every time I see somebody with a child, you only have to hang around children for about two seconds to realize how stressful they are. If you've already got problems with your relationship and suddenly you're going to sleep deprive yourself, you're going to have somebody dependent on you 24 hours a day. How is this going to make you more happier with your husband? It doesn't even make sense to me. It might stop people leaving because of obligation but who wants to be with somebody out of obligation?”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Oh my god, kids, I think, really make the love part better, I suppose, because you've created that thing, but they're terrible for sex. Terrible for sex. I mean, the minute the kids come along, you can kiss goodbye for sex for five years, really. And people freak about it, and they're like, it's never going to come back, and it will come back. Of course it will. But, you know, all your energy is going to children. So I think if you're going to have kids, you've got to accept that your sex life is going to take a back seat for a long, long time. Don't panic about it. Keep having little sexual connections that aren't necessarily including intercourse, little bite-sized pieces of sex, and you'll be fine, but don't kid yourself that it's not going to change your sex life because it will. Boy, will it?”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“But the happiest groups of people, like not married women, married women end up doing all the jobs. Married women aren't happier than single women. Single women are happier than married women. And married men are really happy because they get everything done for them, basically.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Yeah, of course. And also, like, if you look at the stats on who's happiest, the happiest people are single women and married men. They're the two happiest groups of people always.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Of course, it's important to have the same goals. If you've got one person who wants adventure and to be hiking every weekend and, you know, camping, my idea of hell, they're not going to match well with somebody like me who wants to be in a nice hotel and, you know, having lots of cocktails, you know what I mean? Like, I don't mind the odd camping and hiking, but do you know what I mean? Like, you've got to have, you've got to be compatible.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Yes. I think that is really important because it is all about its timing is so important. And life girls, say you've got, you know, you've got the perfect relationship now, your girlfriend's great. Say suddenly you decided, right, I want to go off to Africa and work with pygmies for five years. This is my life goal. You know, what's she supposed to do?”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Yeah, yeah, you've got choices you're traveling, you've got money, it's probably easy to get away with, you're bored, you've had the kids that, you know, you've started to take everything for granted. You know, things like that make people cheat. It's opportunity, temptation, and your moral code, you know. It's not to do with love. It is to do with respect, though.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“And very, you know, the vagina basically atrophies. So they've solved it for men. Great. Take this pill. And suddenly you're like, you were 18 again, but you're still with this vagina that's not 18, where it's going to hurt like hell. And then the man who suddenly got the swinging penis is like, well, what am I supposed to do with this? And then he goes off and cheats with somebody because he's so happy to have this big rock our direction again.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“No, no, penis envy. Who wants a penis? I certainly don't want a penis. It's all out there to see. We can fake everything But it's really difficult for men. And I think men, I mean, we have a problem with Viagra, by the way. Viagra is a big problem because young men take Viagra because they want to have the biggest, hardest erections ever and they're worried about there's so performance, you know, they have so much performance anxiety because they're watching too much porn and they think that that's real. So they take Viagra because they think just this once, you know, I'll be I just want you to the first time I sleep with her. I want to be really hard. And then of course, you know, eventually you stop it or try to and your girlfriend says, oh, this isn't, you know, you're not as hard as you normally are and suddenly you're back on this cycle. And then young women expect that that is a normal erection, which is not. Anyone who's looked at a Viagra-driven erection and a normal erection, they're completely different. And then on the other end of it, you've got older couples who, you know, we've got two problems with when you get over 50 or 60, men have erect art dysfunction and women have, you know, drive a”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Oh my god, erectile dysfunction for men is women don't appreciate how not being able to get an erection or is the biggest psychological catastrophe. Men experience”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“No. I do friends and friends of friends and stuff like that. I don't because. I lack the skills to disassociate. This is why I never became a therapist because I'm not very good at there are ways to solve a problem where you can stand outside the problem or you stand right in the middle of it all and take it all on. And I'm the stand-in-the-middle person. And I wouldn't ever be able to, I would have no boundaries. They'd be calling me day and night, so now I can't do that.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Love over sex? Of course they do because how often are you having sex? Even if you're having sex a lot, even if you're having sex once a day, twice a day, it's still only really for half an hour each time. So, you know, in the proportion of the time you spend together, the love bit's more important than the sex bit. Definitely is unless the sex bit is really bad and then it tends to poison the rest of the relationship.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“I don't want to have sex with you, and I have no interest in having sex. I've got no interest in trying to get back my desire. And you're not allowed to have sex either. You're not allowed to seek it anywhere else or, you know, apart from running off to the office and masturbating to porn. Well, what choice have you got? I mean, some people stay. Some people stay in that scenario because the love is very strong. And I've got kids or whatever. But I think that's an incredibly selfish thing to say to a partner.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Then you look at exactly, you sort of go through a process. So you have the chat, you talk about, you make sure the sex that's on offer is good sex for the person who doesn't want it. You look at anything around it, like, you know, have they got any childhood issues that need dealing with? Why don't do they not want to want if they don't want to want, then you need to look at what happened, you know, sexual trauma? I mean, if the person that doesn't want to have sex with you is willing to look at ways to become more sexual, stay of course stay. You know, there's always hope. Yes, there's tons of stuff you can do. You know, you can take strip sex right back to basics where you don't have penetrative sex for a year. You might do the sensate focus program, which is all about touching each other without sexual intent. And it might be that you have to go almost like you've got to learn how to have sex all over again. If your partner is willing to try anything's possible, definitely don't walk out. But if your partner says,”
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“But you're not going to be happy if one person doesn't want sex to stop and the other one does. That doesn't make for a happy relationship at all.”
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“You've got to have some kind of discussion, even if that's getting into bed one night and one of you says, we don't have sex much anymore. Does it bother you? No, it doesn't really bother me. Good. Even if it's that. You do need, and you need to have lots of affection, lots of, you need to make up for that. Don't stop touching physically because when sex stops, people often stop touching each other because they worry that that's going to lead to sex and that's going to be awkward. So keep up the effect. That's why you've got to have the chat. If you don't have the chat, affection stops. And if affection and sex stops, then you are in trouble. If you've got lots of affection, you're okay so long as both of you are happy”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Couples who had sex ten times a year. Now plenty of couples, especially couples over 50, only have sex ten times a year, and they were like indignant to be described as sexless. So now they've changed it to a sexless relationship is one where sex hasn't happened in a year. And that's a low sex relationship to be 10 times a year. But it's all dependent on where you're at in life. Like if you've just had babies and they're under two, you're not going to be having a lot of sex. If you're 18, you just got together, you're going to be having an awful lot of sex. You know, if you're part, if you've just gone through menopause or perimenopause and everything's gone to hell, you're not going to be having sex at that period of time. So you can't, there is no one size fits all thing. So find your normal is what I would say. And if your normal is no sex, so long as you have a conversation about it, that's fine. But what you cannot do is stop sex and not talk about it. That is really, really dangerous.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“People have low sex drives, they have a lot of sex at the beginning, or maybe not even that much. And then all of a sudden it fades off, they're perfectly happy. Some people are happy having, you know, one great session every six months. That's enough for them. It keeps them perfectly satisfied. So long as both of you are like that. But what doesn't work is if one of you is highly sex driven in the beginning, you know, we all worry about compatibility. Please measure, you know, match up with somebody who has the same sex drive as you. And I know it's artificially inflated at the beginning, but don't commit to anything until you're six months in, eight months in, a year in. Don't marry anyone under that because you don't know what their sex drive is. Wait until after a year and then you see, and it's very difficult if you've got a massively high sex drive and your other one doesn't. But you can be perfectly happy in sexist relationships so long as both of you are happy with that. And also, you know, they used to define a sexist relationship as”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“No, it's not true. You can often have, I mean, people do instantly think if they're not having sex, oh my God, you know, divorce is coming soon. No. I mean, you can get sex isn't the be-all and end-all for everybody. Lots of people have very low sexual libidos.”
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“So, you cannot recreate that. And if people knew that, no matter what person you end up with, then they would stop leaving perfectly good relationships in search of something that's not ever going to be found.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT