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Tracey Cox

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“Don't have unreal expectations. Don't think you're missing out on this because it's sad because people try and they think that that hot sex at the beginning should last a lifetime. And when it goes, and you think the next person you meet is this going to last forever. This one's going to last forever. And then, of course, it dies down and dies down and dies down. You're like, damn it, I've got the wrong person. You haven't got the wrong person. It's because all the sex and love hormones have stopped working. That's the only way to keep having sex like that. The only way to keep having that beginning sex over and over is to swap partners constantly. Constantly swap partners and you can have that beginning bit over and over again. It is impossible to have the type of sex you have at the start when you're fueled by all these chemicals at the end of a relationship or during a relationship. Anything over two years, it's virtual. You can have satisfying sex, great sex, exciting sex, but it's not fueled by the same hormone.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“He's like thrown her against the wall, they're having sex standing up and, you know, like all this. And I thought, oh for God's sake, this is a couple ten years in. It is not happening like that. And then even me, who knows that this doesn't happen, this is not the norm, I'm like a little bit like, and I always turn to poor old Bolson and I say, if you realise that's not true, you realize that this is not a real. And he's sort of like sitting there going, yep, yep, I do know.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Do you know what? I'm the worst person to watch TV with because I shout at the television. Honestly, there was a thing called Dr. Foster. Did you ever watch that? Sir Ran Jones was in it, and there was this couple they'd been together 10 years. They woke up on a Sunday morning, right? Sunday morning, just woke up. She's of course full makeup, lingerie, everything. And next minute”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Well, unfortunately, that's what you have to do if you want a good sex life. It's what you do. And the thing is, it makes me laugh because we put effort into every other thing. You don't eat the same meal every single night. You find it, buy a good cookbook and look up recipes and experiment with different things. And no one goes, oh, that's terrible. That's so much effort. I don't want to have to do that. I want to know how to cook a three course called On Blow Meal without even looking at a cookbook.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Yes, but it's a solution. I'm not saying have all your orgasms like that, but just maybe now and then have the vibrator in the bed. And why is it inferior? If you can have all that intimacy, if you've had the oral sex, you've had the intercourse, you've thoroughly enjoyed it, but it just hasn't given you that tip over.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“And within three minutes with a vibrator. So we have this big orgasm gap problem where men are having lots of orgasms during partner sex. Women aren't having very many orgasms during partner sex because they don't understand each other very well. Because sometimes people just can't relax with another person there, right? So the solution is to put your hand in the bedside drawer and bring out a vibrator and she would have an orgasm every single time the same way you have an orgasm every single time. Why don't we all just do this? It's the easiest solution in the world, but we don't. Young men are better at it. They'll often say, oh, you know, and she'll say, if women are honest and they'll say, look, you know, that was fantastic, but I kind of missed the moment a bit, which you can as a woman. Can I just use my vibrator or can you use the vibrator on me? Sorted. But we have this like, that's a cheating orgasm that way.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Of course it is, but people who think that they're born great lovers, they don't, you know, I mean, the female response system is complicated. Who knew what a clitoris was back in the day? You know, like they're difficult to stimulate. Actually, they're not that difficult. You just give it a vibrator and then they're fine. But, you know, it's not easy being a great lover. And can I just say one more thing about orgasms is we worry too much about orgasms and how we get them. There is no right way to have an orgasm because everyone thinks it's the right way to have an orgasm is during intercourse with your partner and preferably them climaxing at the same time. Simultaneous orgasms hardly ever happen for a start. They're always faked. So the easiest way to give a woman an orgasm, I mean great women can be very easily orgasmic if you use the right finger technique, if you give her the right oral sex technique. But the thing that is most expert at stimulating the clitoris is vibration. Most women can have an organ.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“I never Oh my God, writing all those sex books. When I go to a dinner party, people either want to sit next to me or they go as far away from me as they possibly can because they're terrified. And the people who say to me, oh, God, well, I don't need a sex book. I'm like, yes, you do. You're the person that needs a sex book. I've written seventeen of them, and I'm still learning about sex. There is so much to learn about sex. How can you think you possibly know everything about sex without ever educating yourself?”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Be really obvious about it. And going back to initiation, just be aware that how you initiate sex will influence whether or not your partner says yes. So if you initiate sex the wrong way, your partner might say no to sex because you just approached it all the wrong way. Whereas if you approach your partner that you know has got a responsive sex drive by talking, cuddling, connecting, whatever she wants could be, you know, she might want you to initiate sex like that. But, you know, and getting her in the mood the way she wants to be in the mood, not the way you would like her to get in the mood, but the way she wants to be in the mood, she'll probably say yes to sex. So a lot of people saying no to sex isn't that they don't want sex. They're just being approached the wrong way and they're not being warmed up the right way. So if you can solve those two basic things, it can...”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“If you don't initiate, I mean, it's a real cop out to never initiate sex. I really do think so. And when women do it who don't often initiate sex, what often happens is that they'll be so subtle that the man misses the point completely. It's like, well, I gave him this really sexy kiss. And it was like, yeah, and anything else, anything else that went with that? And he didn't even, you know, and now I'm not going to do that again. It's like, oh, for God's sake, just be really obvious about it.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Yes, absolutely. Initiation is such a big thing on so many levels. And if you don't ever initiate sex with your partner, you're essentially saying, I don't actually enjoy having sex with you. I mean, having sex with you because you've asked me to have sex with you. And people argue about that. It's like, well, his sex dry is way bigger or, you know, higher and all sorts of stuff. It doesn't matter. You really need to have a thing where, you know, if your partner's got a much bigger sex drive than you, you need to say to them, look, okay, it's really sexy being the person who's the sexy one in the relationship. That's why, you know, it's great. It's nice to be that person. But I want to be the sexy one in the relationship. So hold off on initiating for a while and give me a chance to initiate so that I can feel more powerful. And it's such a great dynamic that power dynamic in relationships is really important that you have to be sometimes the dominant person. You have to be the submissive person. And if you swap around it, it makes...”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Yeah. And also, if you are worried about your body when you're having sex, close your eyes. Like close your eyes and think about what you're feeling. It's about what you're feeling, not like how you're looking. Because if it's stressing you out and you're looking and thinking, oh my God, he's looking at my thighs. He's looking at this. Just close your eyes and go into yourself. Or become more active. That's the other way to overcome body issues is if you're really active in bed and you're like looking at your partner and you're talking dirty and you're making lots of eye contact that way, anything to sort of take yourself out of yourself is good. You either go into yourself and focus on what you're feeling rather than what you're looking like or you sort of become way more active. That also works.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“To other people, all that sort of stuff. But it's difficult, it's very difficult. And I think men suffer from this as well.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“I'm obviously not as undesirable as I think, and it starts to sort of become better and more able to be dealt with. So the more you have sex, the better because it gives you confidence. And sexually confident women, women who think they're good in bed. So increase your skills as well. If you're worried that you're not a great lover, read up on it. Buy some of the books. Go online. Look up technique. Because technique is very important. And the better lover you think you are, the less you worry about what you look like in bed. We all know that sexually confident women win all the time. And sexually confident women put on weight the same way other people do as they get on in life, etc. You know, their bodies are different after pregnancy, but they don't focus on them. They're like, hey, I'm a brilliant lover. Who cares? You know, he's not looking at that. He's just thinking how fantastic I am. So it's more about increase your confidence as a lover, exercise more. And, I mean, then the obvious, take yourself on social media, stop comparing yourself.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“How could he possibly look at me and think that I'm attractive, then you'll never feel that your partner could fancy you to death, but you're never going to feel it because your brain's just gone, nope, I am not sexually attractive anymore. So that is a real problem. It's a real problem. And do you know what the solution is for that? It's not to go off and get a facelift or get your hair done or lose weight or go to the gym more, though actually going to the gym more is one. Exercise is really good for your sex drive and for your self-esteem. But the other thing is that Cures body image is actually to have sex more. If you have sex more often and your partner enjoys it, your brain goes on a subconscious level, well, you know what? I can't be that bad because he's having sex me or she's having sex with me, whoever's having sex with you, they're enjoying it. And so your brain starts to make sense of it all and go, okay, right, you know, this is.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Body image is terrible. They just done a study which looked at two decades, 20 years of study. So they did a study on all the studies on body image. And it turns out that it impacts every single area of sex, regularity of sex, enjoyment of sex, arousal, desire, orgasm, and it makes sense that if you don't like your body, you're not going to want anyone to look at it or touch it. It is the biggest problem with women today and their sex lives is that often, you know, this is the other thing with your friends, have they just had babies? Has their body changed? You know, are they not feeling so desirable? You know, desire, I think, feeling desired by your partner is much more important to women than, you know, anything else. If your partner looks at you in a, you know, like, God, you're so hot, you're so sexy, that is the biggest turn of all. And if you're feeling not great about yourself and your mindset is so much down on yourself that you think, I don't.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“You know, every depiction of sex is that, you know, everybody has this mutual orgasm, simultaneous orgasm together. And that's just how sex is. Well, it's not like that. It's totally not like that at all.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“My hope is that women are going to take the charge and go forward and we're going to end up with sex that's more interesting, sex that's less doing everything to please a man more equal. You know, this is what I need. This is what I want. This is what you need. This is what you want. Let's work out the best way to do that together. Not where, you know, because so many women still now, that's the thing that does disappoint me, is still have sex to please men still pretend to have orgasms during penetrative sex because society is brainwashed. We have known that women don't orgasm basically through penetrative sex since Karma Sutra, which was written in the 3rd to 5th century. And yet most men will go, yeah, yeah, yeah, I've heard about that. I've heard about that. It hasn't happened to me. I've just been really lucky. All my girlfriends, you know, I mean, it's just like, they're faking. They're faking because the girl before faked and they feel they have to.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Lovela relationship, and then they want to be able to have sex with men on the side. It's not men thinking like this, this is women thinking like this. And I think that it's going to make for more interesting relationships. And because the whole women are overturning everything, like the motivation for affairs now has completely reversed. So men used to have affairs for sex. Now most men, if they're in a good relationship, will satisfy that with porn, right? Most men. Now men have affairs for love and affection. Women have affairs they used to have affairs for love that they weren't getting from their partner. Now they have affairs for erotic sex. Sex where they're not looking after their partner. They can be selfish. They don't have to care about whether they hurt his feelings or say, don't do it that way. They're not going to care about whether Stephen doesn't like it if he's being instructed. It's like, do that, do this. They want that sort of sex, right? And that's why they're having affairs. So I feel...”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Um yes, and I have great Hope with the young generation of women. I think this is the first generation of women who really have probably the least sexual hangups that we've ever had. And I think that, I mean, young women are much more adventurous than young men. It's sort of going in a weird direction, I think, that way. And all the young women that I'm in contact with, I'm talking about young women in their 20s, early 30s, we know that young women are more bicurious than men. We know that young women are more interested in threesomes with two women than men are. We know that young women are more interested in going to a sex club than men are. We know that young women are more interested in polyamory.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“And the whole village sort of accepted it. And then when he didn't need her, he got a real person at the end. But no, I didn't see Blade.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“And challenge, and sometimes to walk When the football's on. Yeah, no, you're not going to put that in there. But then I think surely over time, I don't know, I do worry about AI with humans and I don't share. Some people present the argument, we'll be free to do all these amazing esoteric things. We won't. We'll just sit there and look at social media and get fat and drink and sit in our rooms watching porn. That's what we'll do”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“No, I think humans will be more interesting, surely. Do you want somebody like, it's like a yes person. I don't want a yes person in my life. I want somebody”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“I mean, I think that's got some really nice applications to it, but it's also got some dire applications to it. Because then, you know, ultimately we'll end up with no population, will we? Because no one will be having sex with a real person”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Or on the doorstep of that world. And you know what, though? Think about all the lonely people. Think about all the lonely people that can now have a companion. Think of it like that. Is it real connection? Because it is. If you're somebody who can't find a companion in real life or you're lonely, I mean, it's better than a dog, isn't it?”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“And less, and you know, the more we go into virtual worlds, the more, I mean, the amount of people who rely on porn for sex, who can't even be bothered going out and finding a partner because it's all too difficult. I mean, it's becoming less and less about the intimacy and more and more about just the getting off part.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“That was it. We just are two, you know, there's that going on. So we're too busy, we've got too many other things on our plate. That's the main problem with long-term couples. Then you have like, I think less face-to-face communication, which makes people quite nervous. If you haven't had sex before and you're dealing mainly with, you know, FaceTime calls, you know, video calls, which is what lots of young people are, when you're face to face, they get very nervous. They don't know anything about body language. They don't know how to connect. And sex becomes scary. In Japan, there's something like 30%, no, higher. I think more like 45% of people get to the age of in their 30s and they're virgins. They've never even had a sexual encounter. And they just, and if you don't give your body sex, your body doesn't want sex. So they could quite happily go through life completely sexless. That's what's going to end up happening with sex. We are becoming less and less.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Yeah, there's a sex recession. And that's very much because, I mean, basically, there wasn't a sex recession before social media streaming phones. It's all to do with that. We have too much to do. We basically just go off sex because we have other things to entertain us. You know, pre- or that, 10, 34 on a Saturday night, most couples were having sex. There was nothing else to do.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Then where are you left? Apart from having solo sex and, you know, or you have an agreement, okay, well, if you won't have sex with me, then... Satisfy myself, to cheat. Are you happy for me to seek the sex elsewhere? And lots of times people will say, yeah, actually I am. I don't want to know about it. I don't want it to be in our friendship group. And we're going to have to have rules about this. But, you know, some women are more than happy for that to happen. Or some men are more than happy for that to happen. It's not just a female thing here. Men go off sex as well.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Because then people did some soul, and sometimes maybe you walk out and then the person thinks, well, gosh, actually, that's not very fair because monogamy is all about, you know, I pledge to only have sex with one person. Well, if that person withdraws sex.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“If somebody says that to you and they really, and you've tried on several occasions, and you, I think that is grounds for walking out myself.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Okay, so the partner who wants sex is generally more driven. So maybe they could educate themselves and say, you know, I've been reading up about this. Perhaps it might be because of this. Can we try having sex this way? But it's all about breaching the topic and then, I mean, depending on the reaction, I mean, I know encouraged some people to have this talk and then they've got an answer which is just startling. Well, they'll say, I don't want to have sex anymore. I'm not interested in solving this. So that's it. So you just have to put up with it. That's what I.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Then you kind of hit a wall, don't you? Well, that's when you educate yourself. That's when you read a few of my books to give you a bit of education. But, I mean.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Doing it for you, what can I do to make you want to have sex more often with me? Because I would really love to have sex with you more often. Can we have a discussion about this?”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“He texted her the next day and said, Oh my God, babe, this sex was awesome. Let's meet up again. And she was just like, how could you possibly think that that was good? And that worries me a lot. I think that, I mean, sex, I think, is moving in a great way in lots of ways, particularly for young women, except for things like that. I think that is terrible. So, no, you don't want to be satisfying yourself with porn. You have to have the conversation if sex is now out of your marriage. You cannot just let it go and be the elephant in the room because exactly what you said is going to happen. You're going to leave or you're going to cheat. So you sit down with your partner and you say, listen, we really need to have discussion about this. I love you desperately, but I miss our sex. I really, we used to have lovely sex. I love having sex with you. You're really desirable. It's, you know, and we talk about why this isn't happening anymore. Are you having the sort of, you know, is it that the sex that we're having isn't...”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Exactly. And that's what young men do because they think that's what sex is going to be about. It's not. So then they keep looking for the girls who will give them that. And then girls very quickly figure out, okay, if I want to be liked, I have to do that. I've just done a big thing on choking. And I interviewed all these young girls and it was horrifying. They've been, I mean, between 58% of college students between the age of, you know, like had all been choked, I think 30% of them had been asked. And I'm not talking about, you know, symbolic choking of just putting a hand on the throat, which even that freaks me out. But I'm talking about, you know, cutting off wind supply. There was one girl who told me she was 21. She'd gone out with this guy. He seemed really nice. He started choking her. She said, no, she passed out. She woke up. Next to this guy who was asleep, he then said to her, and then she got herself out of there and was like, oh my God, you know.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Have a great relationship with Pawn. He used to say to people all the time, Pawnee's your friend, watch it with your partner. It's great for, you know, if you've got a high sex drive and your partner doesn't, you can satisfy yourself. It keeps your imagination peaked. You can satisfy that sense of newness by watching porn. And now porn's moved into a really ugly stage with, you know, there's such a concentration on aggressive acts like spitting, choking, choking is terrible, slapping across the face. It's become very much like that. And young men are growing up to think that this is what a normal sex session is like. This is normal real-life sex. It is not. Paul is nothing like real life sex. And then women look at it and go, gosh, right, okay, that's obviously what's expected of me. This is what I have to do. And it's moving into a very nasty direction.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“That's exactly right. And of course, what lots of people do in that scenario is they just turn to porn. And they just satisfy themselves with porn, but that's not ideal, obviously. But well, because it's pretty soulless, isn't it? Just watching porn and masturbating. It's really funny about porn, actually, because I used to.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“have a beginning a middle and an end like have a big snogging session have a thing where he gives you oral you don't do any you know give nothing back or you give him oral or you know you just do something sensual together you have a bath together that counts as sex you know people think sex has to have intercourse in there it doesn't it's the least favorite bit for women take the intercourse out Start doing little bite-sized stuff to reconnect sexually”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Horror? Horror, yeah. Yeah, you wouldn't go straight from not talking about sex to like, and we're going to go to laptops and club tonight. And no, you have to have the conversation. If you just think, yeah, this will pass, this will pass, it will never pass. You're not going to suddenly go, oh my God, look at that. We haven't had sex for five years. Let's go to bed now. No, it's got to the awkward, awkward, awkward stage. So, I mean, 30% of couples who have been together for two years or more don't have sex. Two years, not ten years, two years, thirty percent. It is very easy to get out of the habit of sex. And once you're out of the habit of sex, the less often you do it. And then couples get into this thing where it's like, God, we haven't had sex for ages. But you know what? Next weekend we'll have this marathon sex session and that'll make up for it all. And then the marathon sex session is like, God, how am I going to find time for that? Or, you know, that's a bit daunting. And then, of course, you'd have to have sex for like six weeks to make up for the session. So it just becomes more and more insurmountable. So I always say to people, just have little bite-sized bits of sex. Sex doesn't have to.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“And I read the books, and suddenly I was back into this erotic sex with my husband that I'd just forgotten, I'd forgotten about. Like you think of sex as like, oh God, here we go, kissing, bit fumbling, you know, and then the routine sex, but give people something interesting. Like all your friends, give a really interesting scenario. Take her somewhere sexy, push her out of her comfort zones. Don't give her romance. Don't give her, you know, give her sexy sex and then they'll be interested.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Kidding? What are you thinking? This is fantastic. I'm absolutely say yes to this. Say yes to this. So there's such a big difference between what we're taught and what we would like. So if your girlfriend saying no to sex and you're in a long-term relationship, it's because you're not giving her interesting enough sex. Give her exciting erotic sex. Give her something like, actually, this is what we're going to do. I mean, look at 50 shades of grey that got middle-aged women wanting sex with women who hadn't wanted sex for 20 years. I remember being on a holiday with my husband and we started talking to this couple and it was around the time in 50 shaves came out and she knew what I did and she said she said God I hadn't really had great sex with my partner. I wasn't interested in sex for like 10 years. She said, I read the book. I'm sitting there two o'clock in the morning. I'm looking down at my partner and I'm thinking I really just want to wake him up and have sex with him. And she said, and I've never, and then she said,”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Just that you've got to be have sexy things happening to you before you feel the desire for sex. And if people understood that, if women understood it better and stopped saying, oh, it's obviously means my sex drive's gone, no, it hasn't. It's there. You've just got to have great stimulation and great sex to get it back. And the other thing about women is that women, we have this thing about that women want tame and they want romance and stuff. That's not true. So much research now shows that women like erotic wild sex. I mean, they've done these experiments with women where they'll show them erotic videos and they'll wire up the genitals to measure genital response. So when you're aroused as a woman, blood flows to the genital same as men and you lubricate. They're watching all these videos, various sexy videos, and they have to say, you know, fully anything is disarousing you, no, because society says no, we're not supposed to be. And the genitals are like, are you?”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Because their sex driver is responsive. So they're almost like blinking it's over and they haven't even got to five percent desire. And this is the problem with couples. And that's with, I'm talking about a very basic couple you probably don't talk about sex and who aren't terribly sexually savvy. So I think because I think people have an understanding vague understanding that women need more foreplay. I mean, that's been drummed into men, hasn't it? But I think that what women don't understand is that women think at the beginning it was great, it was all spontaneous. I desire was there, you know, when you get into a long-term relationship, desire doesn't tap you on the shoulder anymore. You have to create it. And women, I think because that spontaneous desire is gone and they don't feel like sex, it just doesn't come out of the blue unless they start having sex. They think, oh, that just must mean I don't want sex anymore. Wow, something's wrong with me. I don't want sex anymore. You do want sex.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“That's the warming up, right? Now, 30% of women have responsive desire. The rest of them are a mix between spontaneous and responsive. Most men. So you've got this situation where most men have spontaneous desire, most women are responsive. Most men are very happy to go straight to genital sex. They don't need warming up the way their anatomy works. For women, forprey isn't a luxury, it's a necessity because in order for sex to be comfortable, you need the vagina to tent. So it literally puffs up so that it can take a penis comfortably. So if you don't wait for that to happen and you go male style sex, go straight for penetration, she's not even off the starting blocks and suddenly you're penetrating. Sex isn't great and then it's all over. So for men, you could have like not even thinking about sex to having finished within 10 minutes. For women, they need time to warm up.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Their partner, their partner wants to have sex, they're not even slightly interested but goes, okay, look, I'll give it a go. Then once things start happening, if their partner is very good at stimulating them and they enjoy the stimulation, all of a sudden they're like, yeah, actually, yeah, I'm enjoying this.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“So spontaneous desire is two thirds of men have spontaneous desire and it's the desire that everybody has at the beginning. And by the way, if you want to know somebody's resting libido, you've got to wait about a year. You have to wait about a year to find out what their real libido is because it's always so artificially inflated at the start, right? But so spontaneous desire, two-thirds of men have this. It's the, you know, one to see, one titsy, you know, seek sex. One sex seeks sex. They can go from people with spontaneous desire could be like scrolling through Instagram. Somebody sexy walks past and it's like, wow, I'm instantly aroused for sex. They go from zero to 100 very quickly. They seek out their mate once sex and they're off, right? Responsive desire means that you have no desire for sex or very little desire for sex until somebody is actually doing something to you sexually. So this is somebody who, you know, maybe is with.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“What I would say to your friends is if your partner doesn't want to have sex with you, I wonder how good the sex is. Because a lot of women say, no, I presume these straight couples, a lot of women say no to sex because the sex that's on offer is not that interesting to them. So for this, we need to talk about sex drives, spontaneous desire versus responsive desire. If you heard of that?”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Yeah, and that's when you get Did you ever watch Billions where she had the fetish of being whipped and wanting to be the submissive? And he just let her go off and be satisfied by a sex worker. One option, by the way, if you partner as a fetish, is to just go okay, I accept that you've got this fetish and it's not for me. So if you, if it's really so much part of your makeup that you can't live without it, then go off with a sex worker and satisfy it. That's the extreme version. But most of the time, I think, oil, you can meet halfway. Like say your partner, say you want to have a threesome with two women. Well, then the meeting halfway might be that you have phone sex with a sex worker. Maybe you role play it. Maybe you go to a lap dancing club and she gets a lap dance by someone. There's always some kind of compromise in there where you can capture a sense of what the other person wants.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT
“Generally, a request for something new, a request for anything is just a request for variety. So say your partner says, I want to try having sex outside and you really don't want to have sex outside, the correct answer to that is, look, that's really not my thing. But, you know, why don't we try X? Most people, if they want to try something new, if you give them, you know, I'm not open to that, but I am open to something else, then they'll be fine about it. But I mean, where you get into problems with somebody wanting to try something other partner, not wanting to try is if it's something a bit fetish.”
2023-05-15 · The Diary of a CEO · The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex) - Tracey Cox · IDENTIFIED FROM THE TRANSCRIPT