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Jordan B. Peterson

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“No bloody wonder you're leery of that right so now you okay so now the question would be what was the nature of that entrapment what evidence did you have that that was in fact the case how much of that was him how much of that was her and what is it that they did wrong and right you need to know all of that and you need to know how it affected you that's a great observation see that's so cool because that very frequently happens to people when they ask a question that's like a revelation So you ask a question, that's like a prayer. The question is, is there something at the bottom of my...”
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“Okay, so now I can tell you what to do with that. So you bring those images to mind, right? So you've got this question in mind. You just found out something. You said that there's something at the bottom of this. Okay, now if you watch your fantasies, they all shed light on this descent into the abyss, so to speak. Now, you had a flash of memory. Okay, that memory is associated with all sorts of things. You can bring that to mind and let it play itself out, right? And it'll explore the contours of the problem that you're now you put your finger on a very important problem. You said that you saw in your father someone who's trapped in his marriage.”
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“Oh, well, that's undoubtedly true. I mean, both of us just about died in the last five years, and I don't mean by a little bit. I mean, like it was. And go for a long time so It was a good thing everything was in place through that. I mean, the waters were pretty high for the last three years, four years. Socially, professionally, physically. What are you wrestling with exactly in this issue? Yeah. I mean, it seems like you're trying to sort out the relationship between the emotional attachment and the personal attachment and the social structures that say surround marriage.”
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“And their indications even to yourself that you're serious. It's not like we understand ourselves. People are just as mysterious to themselves as someone else is mysterious to them. You ask yourself, it's like, okay, well, what? Processes, what do I have to put in place to ensure that I'm Doing the right thing, well, when you're embarking on something difficult, like marriage, then you better have everything necessary in place.”
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“You're talking about a multitude of different bonds, right? Fundamentally, right? The one that you're prioritizing is the bond that's voluntary and predicated on the love of the moment. I mean, we want to be precise here, right? So I think that's a reasonably way of conceptualizing it. And it is a romantic view that that should prevail. And it's a romantic view that that should be sufficient. I don't think it... It's often the case that it doesn't prevail and it's generally the case that it's not sufficient. And so then you might say, well, maybe you want to add a legal element to that and you want to add a metaphysical element to it because those are all fortifications.”
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“Is it just going to dissolve? Or are you going to say, we're in this, you know, come hell or high water, which is the vow. Come hell or high. And hell in high water, they're coming. And then you've got to ask yourself, you know, is this the person you want in the boat with you when hell and high water come? And that's not going to be fun. That's for sure. You want to do it alone? Or you think that when everything falls apart around you, you're going to be in a better position to find someone better? I don't think so. It's a long and then, you know, you take the marital vow in a religious sense and you do it in front of a community. Right. So it signifies commitment. And you need that because like you think you can maintain all that commitment on your own? Maybe you can. I doubt it. Generally people can't, like no one. We need to fortify ourselves in all sorts of ways to get through the things in life that are most difficult.”
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“That's a very naive view of the world because there'll be times when Because that's kind of like saying, well, as long as we love each other and we're happy, we'll be together. It's like, well, if you're talking 40 years, there's going to be plenty of years in there where you're not happy and you probably don't love each other. So what then?”
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“Yeah The general rule of thumb for life is that you should do what other people have done forever unless you have a really good reason not to. Don't deviate from the straight narrow path. Like you are already deviating in all sorts of ways, you're very entrepreneurial. So your life has a variety of adventurous pathways. You're going to want Firm foundation wherever you can. That'll actually free you up to do more adventurous things. Children are a multigenal commitment. It's children and grandchildren. And so The marriage is a signifier of that. And in order to stay with someone optimally over the longest period of time, possible, it has to be serious. And for something to be serious, you have to throw everything at it. You know, and you might say, well, love is enough. It's like,”
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“Well, I don't know exactly what the trial period should be. I mean, people have dated. And I'm also not saying that this is simple. It's not simple. Why would it be simple? It's the... There isn't anything more difficult that you do in your entire life than find a partner and establish a family. It's like it's going to be hard. How to do it optimally? Well, I can tell you in my own experience, you know, like I've known my wife since she was eight, and we were friends, good friends, and we kind of departed from each other during adolescence. I was a year younger than everyone in my class, and she matured faster, women do anyways, and so that kind of split us apart, and we didn't get married till I think we were about twenty seven, something like that, twenty eight, but it would have been better to do it earlier.”
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“I know the stats on living together. It's like you live with someone and then you marry them, you're more likely to get divorced. It doesn't work. The theory was. Try it out, and if it works, you go ahead with it. Yeah, well the theory was wrong because that isn't what happens. It actually increases the probability that the relationship will fail. It's also partly, you've got to ask yourself what the message is. I know what the message is when you live with someone. It's pretty straightforward. You'll do unless someone better comes along, and I'll grant you the same opportunity. But Jesus, that's a hell of a foundation for a for a like long term relationship.”
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“Here's another problem. I'm going to see what it's like to be married by living with this person. It's like, no, you're not. You don't know what it's like to be married until you're married. Whatever you're doing when you live together, that's not a model for what you're going to do when you're married, because being married is different. It's permanent”
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“Well, here's one way of looking at it. So let's say you take the alternative approach, okay? You're going to try your partner on for size so you live together. Well, first of all, we know that couples live together are more likely to get divorced rather than less. We know that the probability of cheating is proportionate to the number of partners before the marriage or the committed relationship. Well, partly that's just self-evidence, like the best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. Right, so if you had a lot of partners, you're the sort of person who's likely to have a lot of partners. And then there's also a conceptual problem. It's like, are you shopping for a car? It's like you're going to take it out for a test drive and see how it goes. Okay, that's not the right. Metaphor. And then”
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“And sex is costly. Like we have this immature delusion that we can free sex from like the grip of the oppressive patriarchy, let's say. It's like, no, you can't. Obviously you can't. Emotional entanglements are an inevitable consequence of intimate physical relationships. There's that. Then there's the issue of abortion and pregnancy. That actually constitutes a problem. And then there's sexually transmitted disease. And that's just like the first of a very long list of potential problems with sex. There's no simple sexual landscape and there are deluded people who think there is a simple landscape and that there should be, but most they tilt hard in the psychopathic direction because they're manipulative.”
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“The pool of short-term maters has more men in it. Okay, what do they like? Well, the personality studies have already been done. They're Machiavellian, which means they use their language to manipulate. They're narcissistic, which means they want unearned social status. They're psychopathic, which makes them predatory parasites, and they're sadistic. Okay, so now you open up the mating market so that short-term dalliances are acceptable. You throw all the women into the hands of the psychopaths. Well, that's a bad strategy, and it's no wonder that it decimates the mating market because women are thinking, well, are those men trustworthy? And the answer is no.”
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“Well, one of them I would say is that in a free An easy mating environment women don't trust men. And no wonder Well, here's a terrible thing to know. So Imagine that there are men who are oriented towards short term relationships and there are men who are oriented towards long-term relationships, committed relationships, right? Okay, so that would be the men who want love along with sex, let's say, love and commitment. Then there's the party today because we're all dead tomorrow sort of guys. And there's some women like that too, although fewer women because they pay a much higher price for sexual impropriety.”
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“Especially if you're young, why? The probability that any given beautiful woman is going to reject you when you're a young man is like it's basically a hundred percent. Now it's not exactly a hundred percent and there are exceptions, but the default response is rejection. And beautiful women get hit on. A fair bit.”
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“Sure Yeah, well, but there's reason for that. It's not weakness on the part of men, exactly, it's the desire of the woman to find someone who brings a benefit to the relationship. And why? Well, she because a woman will make herself vulnerable when she has a child. And so she's looking for a man who'll be helpful compared to her. Okay, so if the woman is full of ability, well, then her standards for a guy who's going to be helpful get very high. And that's hard on her because it decreases the pool of available candidates radically. So, like, there's a negative relationship between IQ and women and the probability of being married. So it's harsh. Now, is it our men intimidated? Well, yes obviously. Are men intimidated by beautiful women? Well, you can answer that.”
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“These women that I'm talking about, they were often alone. Why? Well, they're beautiful, so that like intimidated ninety percent of men right there. They're smart. So that's another ninety percent of the remaining ten percent. Well, first of all, who's going to approach them? And second, who are they going to accept? Because women are hypergamous, right?”
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“Not really So now I'm not saying that people shouldn't pursue a career. I'm not saying that, but I would say even in my case and I'm male, so that makes a big difference because men are also oriented towards status competition victory in a way that women just aren't, not at least not in the career domain. And the reason for that is very straightforward. And the thing that makes men, by default, most attractive to women is their comparative success in the hierarchy of men. It's a walloping predictor. And it's irrelevant to men. Men don't care at all whether women are successful in their career. It's not a determinant of their attractiveness. In fact, it's often Contrary”
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“Very focused on career development, and they'd done very well in junior high school, in high school. Then they aced college and their LSATs. And then when they were articling the firms snapped them up quickly and then they rocketed up towards partnership and then they were 30 and they all thought what the hell am I doing working 70 hours a week with a bunch of insanely competitive men Right, and that is the question. It's like, what are you doing? Exactly. And then even if you're radically successful, let's say in your law school career, if you get run over by a bus on the way to work, The waters just close over you at the firm and the firm continues on. It's not like anyone cares.”
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“Offering that we made to consulting firms and law firms, and the offer was, send us your best people, and we'll work for them. But the consequence of that is that they'll be even more productive. So in the typical law firm, for example, there's people who don't do well, then there's people who are good lawyers, then there are people who are good lawyers that bring in business. There's like none of them. They're super valuable. And if a law firm has someone like that, they want to keep them. And they're often women, half the time, let's say. And those were the women. I worked with a bunch of men too, but I'll concentrate on the women here. Those were the women I was working with. And they were... Generally, extremely attractive, extremely intelligent, very hardworking, and”
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“Both while we know now that at the present time in the West, half of women, thirty and younger, don't have a child. Now, we also know that couples 30, one in three couples at 30, already have trouble conceiving that definition of trouble is one year of attempt with no success. Okay, so fertility goes off a cliff at thirty five. So thirty, you're pushing your luck at 30. At 35, you are seriously pushing your luck. I worked for 10 years with a strata of the highest achieving women likely in Canada. I had as part of my clinical practice.”
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“five. If you're lucky, if you're attractive and fortunate, you get five cracks at the pinata. Five isn't very many. And people think, well, there's plenty of fish in the sea. It's like that doesn't mean they're going to swarm around you, buddy. And maybe it's even worse for women because their time frame is very short, you know, like if a woman isn't in a relationship, family relationship by 30, then it's starting to get pretty damn rough. And that's almost independent of how attractive she is. It's like you don't have much time. Better get yourself prepared.”
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“That's worth taking apart. I liked to do arithmetic with my clients. Like people hate arithmetic, and it's no wonder because it's so savage. So I'll give you an example. So 15 years ago. I counted the number of times I would see my parents. Like 20 times. So then I knew that. 20 isn't very many. Right. How many people do you get to try on in your life?”
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“Okay, so there's three things that are pretty good. You've got a firm financial foundation, you've maintaining yourself physically or even improving yourself and you're doing the same thing, say spiritually and intellectually. Okay, well, that'll attract a fair number of people, just those three. And maybe you're increasing the probability that it will attract the sort of person that you would like to attract.”
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“So that's not exactly focusing on yourself, right? That's focusing on getting your act together. And I'm being very picky about the words because focus on yourself that has a narcissistic connotation. But that isn't what you're talking about. You said you fortified yourself financially. Okay, so now you have foundation under your feet financially. Okay, good. What else?”
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“There's a difference between narcissism and giving the devil is due. Okay, let's pull back a little bit. What have you done right?”
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“How could I learn to offer something to someone else that would make me eminently desirable? That's a way different question. They're not even in the same conceptual universe, and it's the right question because you can build yourself into a person that people would line up to be with. Well, have you done it?”
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“You're not really compatible with anyone. You know, people think, well, I'll find the right person, it's like, first of all, no, you won't, second if you found the right person and they ever saw you, they'd just run away screaming. So it's just the whole conceptual scheme is wrong. When I was on tour, there was one three day period where The same question emerged from the audience because I do a Q&A three nights in a row. How do I find the person that's right for me? And I tried answering it. And by the third night, I thought, oh, I know why I can't answer this question. It's because it's a stupid question. It's badly formulated, like profoundly badly formulated, fatally, badly formulated. It's not the right question. The right question is,”
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“You have to become an expert at it. You have to take it on as a responsibility. It's offered as a gift, but then you have to take it on as a responsibility. Then you have to practice. It's like, oh yes, I love this person. And if you don't at the moment, you have to think, well, I did, and I could. So why don't I? Is it me? That's probably it's you Might be them too, but you might as well start with you. I mean, you got lots of flaws. You could start with those.”
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“During this period of time, but let's see if we can figure it out, see if we could do like 10% more of that next week or 1% more, and then just make that expand. You can do that too by hypothetically at some point if you're married, at some point you were in love with your wife. You can remember that. You have to remember that. You have to practice remembering that. You have to practice bringing it to mind and occupying that. Because when you first fall in love, it kind of happens to you, right? That's a gift, but you have to, in order for that to last, you have to. Become an expert at”
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“Now you have to tell each other the truth. What the hell do you want? Well, she doesn't know, neither do you, not really. So you got to start digging, finding out. And you noticing, it's like now and then you'll see that you're happy with each other. And maybe it'll happen kind of randomly. You'll be out in some, I don't know, maybe at a restaurant or you're gone for a walk or who knows, and you'll notice, oh, this is going well. It's like, oh yeah, this is going well. What are we doing right? Could we take that little episode and could we start to expand it? You know, because one of the things you can do in a marriage is you can notice when things are going well and then you can have a chat with each other and say, look, I don't know what we did.”
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“That's a hard question, right? You're going to have to think about that for a long time. What would satisfy something as someone as miserable and resentful and useless as me? Right? If I could have it. Now people will, they don't even want to. Address that issue because part of the problem with making your aim clear is you know when you're failing. and people would rather keep the evidence of their failure obscured from themselves even if it meant continued failure. But now let's say you decide not to do that, you're going to think, okay, I'm going to aim high. To take care of myself. Okay, now your wife's on board with that. Now that's a hell of that's really what the marital bow is in the final analysis most deeply is that willingness to participate in that game.”
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“Well, you have to find out that it's there. Okay. A hard question. You both have to want to. That's the first thing. That's the setting of the aim. What do we want? You want to play forever in God's heavenly garden, how about that? That's a metaphorical representation, right? But that's a walled garden. That's the human environment. The walls of your house are. Garden is Displaying itself in its beauty within boundaries. That's a place that play can take place. That's what you want. You've got to think about it. What do you want? Okay, so now we might ask, what do you mean want? If you are taking care of yourself and you could have what was good for you, what would that be?”
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“Dante placed Satan at the bottom of hell. So that's the figure of malevolence itself encased in ice and frozen, so immobile, surrounded by those who betray. That's the lowest level of hell. Why? Well, it's often the case that if you journey into an issue, you To the bottom, you'll find betrayals. Right, because maybe your partner doesn't trust you because she was betrayed. Highly probable, highly probable, or her grandmother was betrayed. Like, you know, there's bad blood between men and women”
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“You can't expect that to be easy. You can't even be in sync with yourself. Like, it's hard. And you need to keep each other up to date. You need to know what's going on. You need to iron out the sources of discomfort or distrust. And that there's a lot of Dante's Inferno. that while Dante's inferno is a characterization of hell by By Dante by One of the most famous poems ever written, and it's you could think about it as What you have to do to get to the bottom of things. So let's say that you have a dispute with your wife and it's a recurring dispute. It's an issue. You have an issue. Do you want to address the issue? It's like, do you want to do surgery without anesthetic? It's the same question. Addressing an issue is a journey into the abyss.”
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“The kind of relationship with a woman that you With anything in the road. It's hard for women to give themselves to men. And no wonder it's amazing they ever do it. They have a lot on the line. What are the preconditions for that offering? Peace and security. You can tell if the territory is being cleared because play emerges. Right, right, play emerges, and play is a very fragile motivational state. It can be disrupted by almost anything. So if there are impediments to understanding, play will not arise, and then you don't have the romantic adventure that you want, it's grudging, right? You don't have a voluntary partner. And that's a very hard thing to attain, right? That full voluntary partnership. That means that you're in sync with each other.”
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“Something approximating ten thousand fights you didn't have that's ten thousand times you remain silent when you had something to say and they all aggregate and then every time once you've collected the first five thousand then every time you have a dispute all five thousand are lurking behind that dispute and the fact of their existence makes it much less likely that you'll say what you have to say That's the reemergence of the dragon of chaos as a consequence of fleeing from your fate. That's exactly right.”
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“You see that people's marriages all the time when marriages deteriorate. A marriage ends in divorce when there's ten thousand fights that haven't been had And I really, I'm not just guessing at that number. It's like, let's say your marriage isn't going very well, and so you have five... Uncomfortable quasi disputes a day Just to pick a number, maybe it's 50, maybe it's three, whatever, five will do. Well, that's fifteen hundred a year. Okay, now you just aggregate that over, let's say, the 10 years it takes your marriage to collapse. Well, you've got.”
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“You're on the offense successfully, that's hard. But retreating one step at a time defensively for your whole life and shrinking while you do it, that's also not very, that's also difficult. It's just the kind of difficult that wears you down and makes you sick of yourself when That's not a good plan. That's a bad plan.”
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“So I didn't want to have all my eggs in one basket, and that turned out well I knew that. It's like you have no autonomy if you have all your eggs in one basket. So if you're going to think strategically, if you're going to think like someone who's at war, let's say, then you don't leave a Mortal flank exposed. And so if you know here's a rule, if you find yourself in a position where you're unable to speak, you haven't fortified your territory properly. Right, so then you have to think about that. It's like you think, okay, why can't I say what I believe to be the case? Where am I vulnerable? And you can say, well, that's inevitable. It's like, no, it's not. It's not inevitable. That doesn't mean it isn't difficult to fortify and to put yourself in a position where”
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“Yeah, it might mean that, but it also might mean that if they bite their tongue and pretend to be something other than they are, they'll be a weak model for their children And is that better than having some financial instability? Maybe here's a counter proposition. If your job requires you to lie, maybe you should find another job. Now look, I also understand that there are strategic considerations in such a decision. There's no sense martyring yourself stupidly, and if you're going to Say what you believe to be the case, then you need to put yourself in a position where doing so won't be instantly catastrophic in a way you can't fix because that's not a good wise. Now, when things blew up around me I had three sources of income. That wasn't accidental. Now, you know, people say, well, you are fortunate. It's like, yeah. And careful”
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“I know it. It's not a matter of thinking. I know it. I know it Absolutely 100%. I spent a lot of time studying evil, a lot of time. And I know how it arises. It arises when good men hold their tongue. You don't want that. There's nothing worse that can happen to you. Now you may suffer some consequences of speaking, for sure, but all things considered, which is the right attitude if you're wise There's nothing worse that can happen to you than to falsify your speech.”
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“That's important. That's all faith predicated. Now the question is faith in what? Well, if you decide that you're just going to say what you think, then you have faith in the truth. At least insofar as you have access to the truth.”
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“So, I'm just trying to see what happens if I say what I think. That's a way of navigating in the world, right? It's an adventurous way of navigating in the world because you don't know what's going to happen. You have to let go of that. And then there's an element of faith in that, right? There's faith in everything you do. The empiricist types, the scientific reductionists, they say, well, you can move forward in the world without faith. That's complete bloody rubbish. There isn't anything you ever do that's important that you don't do in light of faith. It's like if you get married, you do that on the basis of the evidence, do you? What bloody evidence do you have? You're twenty three years old, you don't know a damn thing. You know, maybe you're in love with the person that you want to marry, but you have no evidence whatsoever about how your life is going to go. None, you have to leap into the unknown, like you do with everything.”
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“Refers back to this issue of identity that we were discussing, my identity is well structured in the In the social sense. And then in terms of strategy, yeah, I mean, I have a meta strategy, I suppose. I just say what I think. Now, is that a strategy? It depends on how you define strategy. It's not a strategy that's designed to serve my ends, not in a individualistic way.”
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“Well, yeah, oh definitely. I mean, I had very strong relationships with When all of this started to develop around me, and that's just become more the case, a very tightly knit family. And a very tightly knit group of friends. Now I lost some more peripheral friends, but That's unfortunate, but C lavi, so there's that now is that a strategy? Well, it's not exactly a strategy because I didn't design it towards an end. It was more like an end in itself, right? I mean, I had kids not as a strategic move, but because I like kids. So, and I particularly like my kids. So that's not a strategy. And I really have a great relationship with my wife. And like I've known her for 52 years. It's a very long time. And she's definitely my best friend and probably has been for fifty two years. And so that's really helpful in that.”
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“Disputes that I've had reputationally, let's say, there's a lot of casual reputation savaging that I don't really care about from journalists and so forth, although sometimes that's been pretty brutal because whenever that happened, especially When things just started to be developing around me, let's say, on the public stage, When I encountered a particularly psychopathic journalist, which happened quite often, particularly in the UK, it was completely a toss up which way it was going to go. Like it could have just finished me and my family that was definitely the case three or four, five times, maybe more than that. So yes, it's very bothersome. Now and really for a long time, All of that takes place within a much broader context all the interactions I have with people, in my actual life are ridiculously positive, and”
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“People have to make a choice. It's either the professional college is corrupt and wrong or the individual being targeted is corrupt and wrong. It's way easier to draw the second conclusion. And under most circumstances, in a valid state, that's the correct conclusion. And it was very stressful to find myself embattled at the university, University of Toronto. I liked working there. That place had its problems, but it was pretty functional, and I really liked being there. I enjoyed my career as a professor. I had great relationships with the undergraduates and my graduate students. I loved doing my research, which has also disappeared. So Now Those are the serious.”
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“I mean, sometimes it's like it's been very distressing, very distressing. The battles I've had with the College of Psychologists in Ontario, those are no joke. It's very, very stressful. And unconscionable. So expensive hundreds of thousands of dollars years it's been ten years of legal battles calumny in the press. They're attempting to undermine my professional credibility with some degree of success, you know, because when you're professional college goes after you.”
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